• 0

by Darren Held

I am not a go-with-the-flow kinda girl by nature. Which is one of the many, many reasons improv is good for me. If left to my own devices, I can be a bossy, control freak, my-way-or-the-highway pain in everyone’s ass.

Learning to let go of my agenda in improv was difficult… but once I learned to do it there, the skill spilled over into real life and I became much better at not being the boss of everyone and everything. Now I can let other people be in charge, and I’m happy to do what’s asked of me. I can enjoy other people making the plans, so I can just show up and be. Of course, I still like to be in charge of some stuff from time to time. I mean, you can’t just leave a night of drunken dancing to chance.

Wait, wait. I have a point, I promise! My point is that the Toastmasters group I belong to is, um, somewhat less organized than I would like.

Okay, I’ll be honest. It’s utter friggin’ chaos.

Today I’m the Toastmaster of the meeting, which means I basically run the meeting. Only because of factors that you wouldn’t believe if I told you (running the gamut from illness to overwork to birds), half of the people who were supposed to have roles at the meeting have bailed – including the speakers!

Naturally, I took a couple of minutes (hours) to be pissed and bitchy. After all, I put a lot of work and effort into preparing for my part, and now it’s all jacked up because of people who don’t stick with their commitments. Argh.

But then I ate some breakfast and I thought about it. And I decided this is really a perfect opportunity for me to improvise. Sure, there’s an actual meeting agenda and I have certain things I’m supposed to do during the meeting, but I can still let go of my agenda and stop being mad at people and just make the meeting as fun as possible.

That’s a huge improvement for me, btw. Before improv, I would’ve taken a couple of weeks (months) to be pissed and bitchy.

Wanna learn to go with the flow and be unflappable in the face of life’s constant challenges? Sign up for a H2G Improv class. You’ll have the time of your life!

By Sonnjea Blackwell

Darren Held
About Darren Held
Darren is the CEO and Creative Director of Held2gether, Improv for LIfe. He has been teaching and performing improv for 15 years, and has performed with H2g, the Groundlings, UCB and Second City. He loves Moto, red wine, and Madonna.

No Comments

Leave a Comment